HANDLE OR NOT HANDLE?!?

HANDLE OR NOT HANDLE?!?

There are numerous numbers of activities, of jobs, of things one can do and one can say / talk about. There are as many creative ideas as there are that many and more creative minds and people to create them, conceive them, think of them and co-create them.

How many situations can you think of that one goes through during a day?

How many actions one can do to generate a specific outcome, a specific situation?

What is there in your life that you do not appreciate as much?

What is there in your life that you dislike seeing in other people?

What is there in your life that you wish more than anything to be changed, replaced, different, removed, exchanged?

What can you yourself do about all this at all?

What would be the best approach?

What would be the best way?

Can you handle all that?

Who can you ask for a help?

Recently, there has been a situation in which I have been putting much thought to. Can you handle someone and still like them, still be in love with them? That is what is going on here. One occasion comes by and passes. Another one shows up right afterwards.

Life throws at us many, many curve balls.

How we are going to deal with that is entirely up to us to decide.

Life does not necessarily gives us that what we want but rather provides us with what we need. If we are not ready to face the challenge, the lessons will not be given to us and we will not be able to learn and grow in the process.

There is a nice story that clearly illustrates that and speaks right to the very core. The story tells of a little child and an adult who accompanies this little fellow. They go off to buy an ice cream which the little kiddo will enjoy as a special treat. After the purchase, unfortunately, all of a sudden, the little man drops the ice cream on the ground and starts to be upset and all sadden by the situation. The adult sees what is happening and tries to make the little child happy and reassures him that all is going to be okay…. Now at that point, I would like to stop and think. Think for yourself, what would you do in this very situation? Would you just simply go ahead and seeing this miserable, obviously sad and very upset little fellow of yours, just purchase another scope of ice cream for him to end his misery?

I believe most of us would be very generous in that instance and just do what their heart tells them to do. And why not and do just that? It will make things to go make easier than, much smoother, the little fellow’s life just a bit better and everyone is going to be just fine.

However, the point I am trying to make and get across is this simple one?

It was just an accident, nothing was done on purpose, those things happen daily to many of us, to everyone, in fact. If we really did ahead and get him another scope of ice cream, what lesson will this teach him? Is he going to remember any of that later on in his life? What would be the better or better yet the best lesson to teach him?

As the life itself likes to presents its secrets and a beauty to us, we will learn later on along the way, that buying him 2 more scopes when the child is not yet able to manage even one scope is not a very good idea after all, at all. And like it or not the same ‘theory’ could also be applied to our lives and our journeys. As long as we remain doing the same things, saying the same old things, nothing massive is really going to happen in our life and change our life.

As soon as we prove that we are capable of doing more, the more shall also be given and granted to us.

How about you want to be in a loving, long term, committed relationship. And then the opportunity present itself to you, are you ready to proceed, are you ready to show that you are worthy enough of that sort of relationship, that you really have a lot to offer to the right person?

How about you are dreaming of doing the work that you enjoy for the rest of times. No boss, no set hours, just you and your passion on a daily basis. Would you be also able to carry consequences that may surely arise along the path to success? What is something does not work out as intended? Would you just give up like that? Or would you stop, think, rethink, think again of an easier better way and push, push, push and push until you regain again your desired outcome?

Of course, I could go on and go with this but I am positive you are getting my point by now.

The truth be told, there is no free lunch. We came here with nothing, and the same with we are also going to leave. Hopefully we are going to learn some valuable lessons along the way and make this world a better place. Make and leave every person we come into a contact with just a little better, just a little wiser, just a little smarter, just a little happier, just a little satisfied, just a little fulfilled, just a little confident, just a little merrier, just a little safer in this world.

Are we going to be able to handle all the tasks at hand?

Are we going to be able to face all the consequences?

Are we able to ask for an advice if needs to be?

Are we there yet?

Or are we still having some ‘handling issues’?

You decide!!

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