FREE FLOW WRITING

FREE FLOW WRITING

Free flow writing is a style of writing where you leave your fingers feel free to type away whatever they fancy, whatever first comes to your mind, whatever crosses path in your head, whatever interests you right now at the moment, whatever grabs your attention, whatever takes your fancy, whatever grasps their curiosity, your senses, your feelings, your right now moment.

Today I have learned and heard of 4 different types of love, of loving.

The first one of them all is the one that practically a baby has and holds for their parents. It is the most needed, the most immature, the most dependable kind of love that ever can exist here. The baby, of course, feels and thinks of himself/herself as a centre of the universe and everything around him/her  is rotating around his/her needs and everyone is always at ready to the baby at the baby’s every cry, every sound made. Everybody is literally at mercy and at service to any and every wish the baby’s mind ever even conceive. It may also be the most selfish kind of love there to be, of course, to baby’s knowledge, this is not the case. The baby’s has not learnt the concept of loving, the giving and the receiving parts that consist of that sort of rewarding love that human adults share amongst each other.

The second one would have to be described as the one where we love another person only in order to gain something from them for return. That is pretty snobby and selfish again, huh? We are in love with someone and love them because they may be in a possession of a huge amount of finances, a nice and shiny sport’s car, an enormous castle, a couple of horses, maids to cook, maids to clean the house, minders to look after children, gardeners, this person is also a valuable guest to prestige parties and snob’s meetings and get-togethers. What else is to gain and take away from this person? To be honest, that is not an act of love. That is a game of who wins and who loses, it is a fun play played by 2 puppets who may never understand the real meaning of true and pure love and loving. It could also be viewed as an eating from a plate by two incredibly hungry people. No one loses here, no one wins here, neither. Both starving for love and attention and touch and real feelings, pure love making and none of them is satisfied, none of them feels fulfilled, none of them is happy. It is sad yet very true and happening very, very, way too often.

The third way of looking at love and being in love, and feeling loved in return is the one that most of us dream of. We want it, we desire it, we need it, we cry for it, we sing about it, we write about it, we are hungry and starving for this very one, we cannot seem to have enough of it, ever. Yet, it is the one when you do not expect anything in return. You love this person just because. Just because you feel pure and loving appreciation for them, you feel desire to be with them in the most sweetest way possible, you want to hold them, and laugh with them, and kiss them, and fall asleep with them and do things with them, and smile at them, and smile with them, help them in any way possible, you feel grateful to be around this person and most importantly you feel a total gratitude for having even showed up this very person in your life, for having this person to be part of you, to have this person part of your daily life, to share moments with this person, to give and to give and to give them more and more and even more you can ever afford. You want to surprise them and then observe their reaction, you earn for them to be happy, to see them happy and smiling all the time, you put this person before yourself, you love this person deeply and truly and unconditionally.

The last, the forth love in our mini tutorial here, is the spiritual one. I am talking about Nelson Mandela, Mother Theresa, the Dalai Lama, … Those people see and view love as a way of being, as a way of breathing, as a way of living. To them, there is no other way. They do not believe in enemies, they love one another as their own blood, as their own family. There is, of course, no judgement. No one is no less or more than the next person. Everyone is perceived through the loving eyes and as a love itself. People are seen and viewed as souls, beings, where the soul is eternal, as everlasting one, forever and ever going. Humans are beings, not doings. Souls remain untouched, unharmed, not shattered and not bruised, unhurt. This is the divine love, love for everyone, for everything, for anything. 

What can we all do in order to be closer to that category? What can we do for others, and for ourselves? What can we give away? Who and what can we love more?

Who can help us? Where to look for an example? What can be done more? Who can we become more of, less of? Where to spread more love? Where to begin? What would be the most profound way, the most profound act, the most profound service that we could harness, that we could do, that we could learn to navigate, that we could learn to use, that we could use to operate and make the world and all in it a better place for everyone involved, anyone included?

So, what do you think where is the majority of people standing?

And most importantly, what are we going to do about this, here and now?

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