Do Opposites REALLY attract?!?

Do Opposites REALLY attract?!?

• Have you ever thought of if the opposites do really attract?

• Or is it more or less of ‘Like attracts Like’?

• What are your opinions, views, experiences, personal lessons on the subject/topic?

• Is there a sense of connection between the opposites?

To embrace traits that I have not yet learned to love about myself.

Surrender.

Who needs more of what you already are and have??

Black vs white

Hot vs cold

Fire vs water

Optimist vs pessimist

Big vs small

Up vs down

Sad vs happy

Tall vs short

Right vs left

Open vs closed

Big vs small

Front vs back

Empty vs full

Heavy vs light

Fast vs slow

Hard vs soft

Dirty vs clean

Fat vs thin

Wet vs dry

Loud vs quiet

I am going to challenge you to take a look at what is going on within yourself. Deep relational patterns often stay hidden within your unconscious where you can’t find them. And there they stay in the dark corners of your psyche until you dig a little to excavate the truth. I am here to shed a little light on the situation.

Here is the truth:

Your man/woman ( friend, boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, spouse,… ) is your mirror.

What does this mean? This means that what we see in other people is actually a reflection of what is in ourselves. All the love you see in him/her, you know, because it is love you feel within yourself. And all the hate, annoyance, and fear you find in him, you know, because it is also in you. Do you know where this is headed? I’m saying that your man/woman is your mirror. If your pattern is getting involved with men/women who are unavailable, that means—you got it—that you are unavailable, too.

I can hear the cries of disagreement now: “What do you mean, I’ve been unavailable?! I’ve been nothing but giving, and attentive, and present… ” Hold on, hold on. I know. Give me a second. Let’s take a really close look at this concept. I challenge you to get down and dirty with your truth.

I’m going to ask you some questions, and I want you to answer them honestly. Have you been showing up in your relationships as the full, authentic, confident, complete person that you are? Are you being the real you? Is it really you who enters these relationships, or is it a modified, altered version of you?

I’m going to wage that somehow, someway an altered version of you, rather than the true you, shows up. You may be leaving parts of yourself out. Or, you are modifying yourself in a way that isn’t real. Or, you are biting your tongue. Whatever the case may be, all of you is not showing up. This, I’m sorry to say, is being unavailable for love.

If you don’t show up in your relationship fully—as your authentic self—then no man/woman is going to show up fully for you. This is a fact. Let it sink in. Abandon yourself, get abandoned. The equation is simple, and brutal, and… reversible. There’s hope.

It’s time to get real about your unavailability. Start scanning your heart for the ways you have made yourself unavailable in your current or past relationships. You need to figure it out, or it’s going to keep showing up on your doorstep. It’s time to take some seriously-empowered responsibility for your part. You can do it.

Start with these questions:

·         How have you abandoned yourself in relationships?

·         How have you not been fully authentic in relationships?

·         Have you deflected attention from yourself back to your man/woman, making yourself unavailable?

·         Have you been overly-giving, making yourself unavailable to receive?

·         Have you not expressed your thoughts and opinions, hiding your true self from your man?

How are your answers sitting with you?

This can be a tough pill to swallow. But, the more you can dive into your own deep self-reflection and face what you see with courage and honesty, the more likely you are to break this very painful spell. Remember, we are all unavailable at times. We are human beings. Humans make mistakes. Humans default to their egos. This is completely normal. You do not have to be perfect to find a relationship or to enjoy the one you are currently in. But, the more you get real with how you are co-creating your reality, the better reality you are going to have.

Well, whatever that is …. Attract or do not attract, the most important thing is that…. the one who makes you feel, when you are with HIM, you are at HOME. That is the one!! Period. Full Stop!

Much Love to you all J