There Is No Prince Charming….

There Is No Prince Charming….

I have come to a realization (I assume this would be a good way to start a sentence) and a conclusion that there simply is NOT a Prince Charming of our wildest dreams for us out there waiting!

So we may as well enjoy the journey, savour the moment, go with the flow, be grateful for the process happening...

Well, unless, the one you are having at the moment, is in your very eyes your very own Prince Charming. Then and only then, in that case, YES,

THIS IS A PRINCE CHARMING…..

…. of YOURS, that is!!!

Are you single?

Are you in a relationship?

Are you married?

Are you divorced?

Are you separated?

Are you widowed?

Are you in an open relationship?

Have you been dating?

What does your Mate from Heaven sound and look like?

What does your Mate from Hell sound and look like?

The thing I am trying to point out here is that our minds have been bombarded by pictures of the ‘perfect’ man and the ’perfect’ woman at every corner imaginable.

However what we do have to realize it that no one is perfect. And that is a perfection in itself. Our imperfections are our perfections. We have flaws and that is the way it is supposed to be, that is the way it should and shall be.

The very things that we loved and adored at the begging of the relationship are going to slowly but surely wear off, eventually. Learning to enjoy them, to love them, to embrace them, to cherish them exactly for what they are is a true meaning of loving and respect.

Search for an ideal partner that ‘fits’ you bill. Someone who works alongside you, who loves you and wants you and needs you and respects you and cherishes you and adores you and stands behind you and is there for you for better and worse.

Someone who apologizes and worries about you, who helps you and asks about you and your day. Someone who truly and really wants to spend the time with you, someone who takes you out, who smiles with you and laughs at your jokes, who intrigues you in a cranky way, someone who makes you belly laugh out loud!

Someone who takes criticism deliberately and constructively, someone who is interesting, creative and passionate about what he has been up to in the world!

Someone who actually ‘shows’ you what his love means for you.

Someone who has interests of his own, who is comfortable in his own skin, is healthy, someone who believes in you, someone who you can trust in and who you feel being comfortable around.

Someone who is caring, loving, kind. Someone who is not ego-driven, someone who is generous, giving and compassionate. Someone who shares similar values to yours and has goals planned to strife for.

Trust your heart.

Trust your instinct.

Trust your intuition.

Trust your gut feeling.

So…. What are you after right now??? J

Good Luck!!!

To Love, but not Too Much?!

To Love, but not Too Much?!

Have you ever been in love?

Who has not been?!?

There is no reason whatsoever you cannot have it all!!

To love and to be loved in return.

It may hurt…

You have to be patient…

You want so much to get in touch, to get in contact again and all over again…

Time grows the heart fonder.

The wait is worth it at the end.

Mutual respect between 2 persons.

What would your role model do??

Have you ever had an urge to phone, text, send an email, or in any other form get in contact with someone whom you cared about and / or loved BUT at the same time you knew, you felt deep inside it would be worth the wait if you just could postpone it for a little while as the rewards would be sweeter, more satisfying and more graceful, loving, caring and nicer at the end if you did??

I am all for giving, giving and giving. Receiving in return but not excepting much.

Listen to your gut feeling, instinct, intuition what it is telling you…

Heart really grows bigger and greater and fonder and grateful with each and single every passing day while away from your loved one.

What are your ‘experiences’ in this ‘field’ ??

Much, much love to you ALL……………………

J (-: 

Can you help just one child??

Can you help just one child??

The title, the topic, the subject of today’s post says it all…

If only this book, this post / this blog, etc. would help just one child, it was worth working on, writing on, reading it, sharing it, doing it, ….

THE  STARFISH  POEM

Once upon a time there was a wise man

who used to go to the ocean

to do his writing.

He had a habit of walking

on the beach

before he began his work.

One day he was walking along

the shore.

As he looked down the beach,

he saw a human

figure moving like a dancer.

He smiled to himself to think

of someone who would

dance to the day.

So he began to walk faster

to catch up.

As he got closer, he saw

that it was a young man

and the young man wasn't dancing,

but instead he was reaching

down to the shore,

picking up something

and very gently throwing it

into the ocean.

As he got closer he called out,

"Good morning! What are you doing?"

The young man paused,

looked up and replied,

"Throwing starfish in the ocean."

"I guess I should have asked,

why are you throwing starfish in the ocean?"

"The sun is up and the tide is going out.

And if I don't throw them in they'll die."

"But, young man, don't you realize that

there are miles and miles of beach

and starfish all along it.

You can't possibly make a difference!"

The young man listened politely.

Then bent down, picked up another starfish

and threw it into the sea,

past the breaking waves and said-

"It made a difference for that one."

At times in our lives, we are all the old man, the young man, or the starfish.  Sometimes, as the old man, we don't see the purpose to actions.  Sometimes, as the young man, we persevere and make a difference.  And sometimes, we are the starfish who just need a little help.

In such turbulent times as these, when we may feel alone and small and unable to make any lasting changes we may find ourselves asking "What can I do that will make a difference?" or "What can one small person like me do?" 

In reality we don't have to be rich, talented or even particularly intelligent to make a difference in the life of another. We just need to remember that we ARE here for a purpose, and that making small changes in the world eventually add up to something bigger in the life of another. 

When we become throwers of the stars, we too, have the power to change the world.

A powerful reminder that we should be here for each other, and to seek to help, even in small ways, whenever we can. 

COMFORT ZONE (and You!) – Let’s get this one straight :-)

COMFORT ZONE (and You!) – Let’s get this one straight J

Stepping out of the comfort zone.

Your comfort zone.

The meaning and the purpose behind some events are unknowable. This is the ultimate test of our faith. We must trust that everyone in life is here to learn different lessons at different times, that good and bad experiences are only the perceptions of man. After all, some of your worst experiences have truly been your best. They’ve sculpted you, trained you, developed within you a sensitivity and set you in a direction that reaches out to impact your ultimate destiny.

When people ask how long does it take for something to manifest : It takes as long as it takes you to release the resistance. Could be 30 years, could be 40 years, could be 50 years, could be a week. Could be tomorrow afternoon.

What does the expression really mean and stand for?

Getting outside of your comfort zone is stepping out from the place where it feels familiar, easy, comfortable, non-much-demanding, safe, fearless, steady,  possibly calm, quiet, peaceful, not much happenig there, ordinary things doing / done daily, rut race, stereotype, playing, usual occasions and circumstances, rituals, waiting, non-active, sunshine, automatic stuff daily going on, routine, etc.

Beyond your comfort zone is unfamiliarity, newness, perhaps difficulties (oh yes!), it means being uncomfortable, discomfort, working, it is demanding of our abilities, skills, time, effort, willingness, attention seeking, fear factor may be involved, unpredictability, storm, extraordinary things happening there, clouds,  unusual occasions and circumstances, actions, etc.

Stepping out of where it feels safe, and constantly doing so, being there and staying and remaining there, getting there on a regular basis is the way to your grow. Your learning begins when you leave familiarity and step into the place where you have never been before, never done things the same way before, meeting and talking to unfamiliar people, going to unusual places, meetings, etc.

It is then and only then when you stretch as a person in every way possible imaginable and non – imaginable. You learn the most and the best when situations, people, circumstances, the places you encounter are out of ordinary, unpredictable and not planned in your diary.

ü Try to use a different route that you usually take / use to and from your work / school on the way there…

ü Try to eat a different kind of food…

ü Try to meet and talk to different sort of folks… J

ü Try to listen to different style of music…

ü Try to wear different pieces of garment today…

ü Try to brush your teeth with your non-dominant hand…

ü Try learning / speaking / studying foreign language…

ü Try different forms of exercise…

ü Try to read books that you would normally not consider reading…

ü Try to go to different sporting events, music gigs you would not otherwise go to…

ü Try to attend seminars, conferences you would not even think of attending…

ü Try sitting at different places at the table…

ü Try to challenge yourself on a daily basis – try to do things that scare you a little every day…

And NOW go and DO IT !!! J

HOPE

HOPE

This is one of my very, very favourite topics to write about!

I truly and honestly feel, deep down, I was made of it and for it.

Well, a part of me is definitely made of it anyway.

I could write on and on end and prise the whole subject of HOPE.

I want to strive to be the kind of person who gives HOPE to others.

HOPE

What is HOPE actually?

Let us see….

hope  

/hōp/

Noun A feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen.

Verb Want something to happen or be the case: "he's hoping for compensation"; "I hope that the kids are OK".

Synonyms noun.   expectation - expectancy - expectance - trust - promise verb.   trust - expect - anticipate

HOPE is seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.

HOPE is believing that all things will work out for your good at the end.

HOPE is trusting that there is always a way.

HOPE is trusting that this too shall pass.

HOPE is the belief that circumstances in the future will be better.

HOPE is the emotional state which promotes the belief in a positive outcome related to events and circumstances in one's life. 

HOPE is an expectation moderated by realization that nothing is certain.

When we least expect it, life sets us a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change; at such a moment, there is no point in pretending that nothing has happened or in saying that we are not ready. The challenge will not wait. Life does not look back. A week is more than enough time for us to decide whether or not to accept our destiny.

Every noble work is bound to face problems and obstacles. It is important to check your goal and motivation thoroughly. One should be very truthful, honest, and reasonable. One's actions should be good for others, and for oneself as well. Once a positive goal is chosen, you should decide to pursue it all the way to the end. Even if it is not realized, at least there will be no regret.

Goals are to help us grow - if there were no difficulties, there'd be no growth. The difficulties cause you to raise your conscious awareness beyond where it's at to keep you moving in the direction of your goal.

Surround yourself with good, positive people in your training environment and at meals…and make sure to include some folks that are more successful than you (in all areas of life), as you define it. These people will bring out the best in you…helping you "play up a level". And always help others, the more they benefit, the more you will benefit in return.

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

You cannot give that which you do not possess yourself!!

Do what you CAN do and THE REST will take care of itself!

1.   Whenever it begins it is always the right time.

2.   Whoever shows up is exactly who needs to be there.

3.   Whatever happens is the only thing that could happen.

4.   When it is done. It is done.

There are no mistakes.

There are no accidents.

Everything happens for a reason. Every person you encounter is teaching you a lesson. Your task is to look for it.

The things you dislike in others are the very things you have not yet learned to love and enjoy about yourself!

Never give up on your HOPE!!!

"How pen pals become something more"

"How pen pals become something more"

Recently I have asked a friend of mine I encountered to challenge me and pick a topic for me to write about. And my new friend was willing and kind enough to oblige! J The above paragraph is what he came up with and I took the bull by the horns and jumped on the wagon and begin my writing and typing away…..

Here is what my solution to his posing question/statement sounds like:

Another great topic!!

I have decided to make this article sort and sweet for no real apparent reason! J

What shall we start with?

Let us begin by answering a couple of questions first:

ü Have you been there before?

ü Have you done this before?

ü Have you experienced it before?

ü Have you been a pen friend to someone?

ü What are the pros and the cons?

Pen pals / friends can take many forms. From sending and posting each other letters, they can exchange e-mails, they can write cards to one another, to ‘chatting’ together through and via text messaging or chat windows online, skype calls, phone conversations…

This list is literally limitless.

To me, the main aspect of that sort of communicating represents a mutual respect and understanding. Getting to know each other and knowing theirs interests, being truly interested in them as a person, asking questions that make one another comfortable, showing real interest in helping them in any way possible and honestly listen to / for what is being said, ‘hear’ and read between the lines everything in between. 

Not pushing into something and saying things that may hurt or upset the other person while still being open enough to their hearts and minds at the same time. 

There can, also, be a soul connection that has a significant and profound meaning and that teaches lessons to both parties participating that each of them needs to learn in order to better themselves, in any and every way! Be open, and you will surely sooner or later find it! Each of them has anything to contribute, no matter how small or unimportant it may at first seem!

At The Very moment they ‘connect’, there is a reason, there is a purpose.

They each can be a true gem to one another and a stimulation at the end of the busy day, while still in your own company, and thinking of the other person at the other end of communication, be it a letter, a note, a card, a phone call, an e-mail, a chat, a text message, etc. etc.

Responding back (and forth!) and ‘being truly there’ shows respect for the person while respecting yourself and showing care for yourself, as well. You yourself prove that you have integrity of its own enough to go and pursue friendship that may (or may not) ever lead to a physical face-to-face meeting in a real time & at the real place and fulfilling states / feelings.

It is what you make of it.

The benefits that you bring to it and what you take away from it are up to you only. And your pen pal / pen friend, of course! Certainly, the friendship can blossom into a deeper kind of relationship that improve as much as and as along as the both people – friends – involved in it evolve and grow, both mentally and spiritually. This fact alone is far from too minor not to go ahead. Close to nothing does not suit and fit there!

Patience is a virtue.

And the time will tell….

What are your views on the today’s subject??

Thank you for reading this post, My Dear Friend!!