How to ‘impose’ Self Development on those around you that you love & care about!

How to ‘impose’ Self Development on those around you that you love & care about!

This is quite a touchy subject.

There are so many things to be taken into account and so many things to be considered.

What would you fit into such a big topic as self-development certainly is?

Who are your loved ones?

Who are your dear ones?

Who are your close ones?

It has been said and stated before the fact that we would almost always do more for others than we would ever do for ourselves. We would always do more for our children than we would do for ourselves.

Self-development is a broad field and includes many topics on subjects that have a very wide spectrum. It is necessary that at some point in our lives we get on the journey of self-actualization, self-realization, self-development, self-help, self-learning, self-teaching, etc.

We have people in our lives that mean so much to us, we love them, we adore them, we think about them constantly, we simply cannot imagine our life without them, we cannot simply imagine them not being included in our daily activities, in our daily thoughts on a daily basis, seeing them having them in our lives on a day to day basis means a world to us, means everything.

However, what if, only hypothetically speaking, you would see one of your family member being in such a pain, or seeing them just about making a huge mistake that you seem to have been gone through yourself, that they may be embarking on a journey that may be not appropriate for their current circumstance, that they are just about to make an important decision that will not prove right at the end, that something nasty is just about to happen and you can see yourself preventing it from occurring, from destroying yourself, others, those you love, those you care about, those that mean a lot to you, what if the people you adore are just about to make a leap without considering all things, that the people who means everything and so much to you are just about to just without looking, so many things are just about to bound and you can see yourself doing something about it until something not so nice is going to make itself real.

You yourself can make it happen.

You yourself can do it.

You yourself can prevent it.

You yourself can protect the people involved.

You yourself can work it out.

You yourself can solve it.

You yourself can concentrate on it.

You yourself can tell a story about it.

You yourself can do a thing or 2 with it.

You yourself can play with it.

You yourself can entertain it.

You yourself can work with it.

You yourself can look at it.

You yourself can study it.

You yourself can learn it.

You yourself can teach it.

You yourself can look it up.

You yourself can reach for it.

You yourself can enjoy it.

You yourself can read up on it.

You yourself can search for it.

You yourself can require it.

You yourself can enquire it.

You yourself can ask for it.

You yourself can go for it.

You yourself can see it.

You yourself can watch it.

If we wanted somehow the others view the situation with the similar eyes as ours, with the similar glasses on, with the similar attitude as ours is, if we wanted to really, really truly and honestly help them out, give them a hand, provide them with a piece of advice, show them the way, show and tell them the right approach to use, the correct path to take, the route to embark on, the road to travel on, provide them with the honest feedback, etc. etc.

What in your opinion would be the best way to go about it?

What would really help them to see our thinking and way of solving it clearly?

What would prove them our best interests at heart towards them?

How would they know that we want to help them and we do not mean to get anything in return, no gain in advance?

How would they see that we want to help them and we do not mean to get anything in return, no gain in advance?

How would they feel that we want to help them and we do not mean to get anything in return, no gain in advance?

How would they sense that we want to help them and we do not mean to get anything in return, no gain in advance?

How would they acknowledge that we want to help them and we do not mean to get anything in return, no gain in advance?

Actions speak louder than words.

I presume you have heard this one before.

Yet, here also lies the answer to the posed question we played with earlier.

So many people have already tried to change other people.

And guess what? Did they succeed in their pure intention? Well, not really.

We so often believe we can change others. And guess what. They do not want to be changed. They are perfect as they are. There is nothing wrong with them.

We criticize them instead of we should acknowledge the actions they have been taking or not taking for that matter, lack thereof.

How about we, us DO something about the situation?

How about we perceive it differently?

How about we become the leaders and show them what we have and mean in our hearts of hearts by taking actions ourselves?

How about we WALK OUR TALK ???

Can we do it?

Is it really that simple?

Them, on the other hand, seeing us doing what we have been preaching, seeing us walking our talk, seeing us taking the steps, taking the actions ourselves, then they may start applying some of the advices we have given them..

In this way, they have been growing in their own developmental speed, in their very own pace, nothing has been rushed. everything has been gained in advance, and gotten in return and we have, also, quite intentionally, done our purpose and our gain the leadership status in the process!! J

Good Luck walking your talk…..

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