Yes / Not Yet / I have something better in mind (for You!)

Yes / Not Yet / I have something better in mind (for You!)

Does it need to be said more, anything, anymore?

Does it need any other more introduction?

This I have come across of lately. This statement is simple yet profound. It tells it like it is. What more we could possibly ask for?

Considering that every single one of us has dreams and visions and ambitions that we wish to see accomplished and fulfilled and satisfied, we may have also tendencies to ask for a helping hand, for a piece of advice, for a guidance, for a reassurance, for anything  just to move us forward on our journey.

But probably the hardest part of all is, how do we know we are set on the right track, how do we know which route to choose, how do we trust, how do we believe, how do we have faith, how do we proceed, how do we go about pursing our visions and dreams and ambitions? Who can give us the answer? Would this trip be safer for us, or more of a challenge? Should we go or should we stay? Ah, there are so many decisions to be made, so many actions to be taken. Where do we start, when do we finish?

What can we embrace?

What can we accept?

What can we ignore?

What can we suggest?

The list is, of course, endless.

Do we perhaps have some unrealistic expectations? How would we know if we did? Do we compare our life to others’? Are we comparing ourselves to others? How do we proceed? Do we take the low road? Do we go the high way? Are we going to lead a mediocre life?

The questions that we may have and also we have been searching for the answers to them so desperately. Will we ever find them? Is there a way, a solution to shorten the trip? Is there a shortcut that we could take just so to speed up the journey?

Success leaves clues. That is so profound, so true, so poignant, so sharp, so close, and yet so simple. Who has done that what we desire to do, to achieve, to succeed in? Who has been there and done that? Who has been where we desire to go? Who is the mentor that we could fall back on? Who and where is the teacher that could show us the way, someone that could also teach us the lessons on the way there? The lessons we so desperately need to study! When the student is ready, the teacher will appear. Are we ready yet? Are we ready to listen? Are we ready to take notes?

What is the today’s topic suggesting to us? What the title wants us to learn? What does the title says to us?

As I have mentioned earlier, we all strive to be successful and at some point or the other we may have feel disappointed, we may have experienced feelings of failure, or disconnection, of messiness, of confusion, of disillusion, of discomfort, of separation. We are at the crossroad, no way of knowing what else to do, if anything at all. Shall we just remain stuck, shall we proceed, or shall we wait, or shall we move 2 steps backwards?

The important part of the learning journey is the fact and a knowing that all this is happening for our good. Yes, we may not see it this way at first, but as the journey unfolds in front of our very eyes, we will surely understand, we will surely be grateful, we surely come to a conclusion that it truly does what it exactly says on the tin.

YES…

… Yes simply means: Yes, your wish has been granted upon you. You have been blessed. You dream came true. Everything that you ever wished had become a reality. What more could you ask then?

NOT YET…

... obviously not yet this has come. There is still some learning to be done, some lessons needed to be taken. Some people have to be met and contacted, some fun to be had, some writing to be done, some reading to be finished, some searching to be looked over, reading up on articles, something to catch up on and with. As they say the best is yet to come, so are you ready for your very best to come and to show up in your life?

I HAVE SOMETHING BETTER IN MIND…

... that in my opinion is the sweetest version of our dreams. What can be more beautiful, more amazing, more wonderful, more special, more awesome, more generous, more courageous, more adventurous, more everything?

We always advise on when wishing for something to say the wish in the way that says we would love our wish to come true OR something better. In this way, we never lose. We always win. Always! In every case, in any case.

Are you ready for even the most wildest and strangest dreams of yours to come true? How about if they were even most wildest and strangest that you could have ever imagined, not even in the most sweetest and the most beautiful dreams of yours!! And yes, everything is possible. This is possible for you. if you can dream it, if you can imagine it, it you can visualize it, then and only then it WILL COME TO FRUITATION.

So, lighten up, cheer up, good things, good times are coming your way if only you could see it this way. Happiness is a choice. You can always make a choice. What and how you choose is only up to you. It is your one and only life. There are laws that work for you, there are prices to be paid. However, nevertheless, the journey is worthwhile.

You will know.

You will discover it.

Life comes with many challenges. The ones that should not scare us are the ones we can take on and take control of.

(1004 words)

HANDLE OR NOT HANDLE?!?

HANDLE OR NOT HANDLE?!?

There are numerous numbers of activities, of jobs, of things one can do and one can say / talk about. There are as many creative ideas as there are that many and more creative minds and people to create them, conceive them, think of them and co-create them.

How many situations can you think of that one goes through during a day?

How many actions one can do to generate a specific outcome, a specific situation?

What is there in your life that you do not appreciate as much?

What is there in your life that you dislike seeing in other people?

What is there in your life that you wish more than anything to be changed, replaced, different, removed, exchanged?

What can you yourself do about all this at all?

What would be the best approach?

What would be the best way?

Can you handle all that?

Who can you ask for a help?

Recently, there has been a situation in which I have been putting much thought to. Can you handle someone and still like them, still be in love with them? That is what is going on here. One occasion comes by and passes. Another one shows up right afterwards.

Life throws at us many, many curve balls.

How we are going to deal with that is entirely up to us to decide.

Life does not necessarily gives us that what we want but rather provides us with what we need. If we are not ready to face the challenge, the lessons will not be given to us and we will not be able to learn and grow in the process.

There is a nice story that clearly illustrates that and speaks right to the very core. The story tells of a little child and an adult who accompanies this little fellow. They go off to buy an ice cream which the little kiddo will enjoy as a special treat. After the purchase, unfortunately, all of a sudden, the little man drops the ice cream on the ground and starts to be upset and all sadden by the situation. The adult sees what is happening and tries to make the little child happy and reassures him that all is going to be okay…. Now at that point, I would like to stop and think. Think for yourself, what would you do in this very situation? Would you just simply go ahead and seeing this miserable, obviously sad and very upset little fellow of yours, just purchase another scope of ice cream for him to end his misery?

I believe most of us would be very generous in that instance and just do what their heart tells them to do. And why not and do just that? It will make things to go make easier than, much smoother, the little fellow’s life just a bit better and everyone is going to be just fine.

However, the point I am trying to make and get across is this simple one?

It was just an accident, nothing was done on purpose, those things happen daily to many of us, to everyone, in fact. If we really did ahead and get him another scope of ice cream, what lesson will this teach him? Is he going to remember any of that later on in his life? What would be the better or better yet the best lesson to teach him?

As the life itself likes to presents its secrets and a beauty to us, we will learn later on along the way, that buying him 2 more scopes when the child is not yet able to manage even one scope is not a very good idea after all, at all. And like it or not the same ‘theory’ could also be applied to our lives and our journeys. As long as we remain doing the same things, saying the same old things, nothing massive is really going to happen in our life and change our life.

As soon as we prove that we are capable of doing more, the more shall also be given and granted to us.

How about you want to be in a loving, long term, committed relationship. And then the opportunity present itself to you, are you ready to proceed, are you ready to show that you are worthy enough of that sort of relationship, that you really have a lot to offer to the right person?

How about you are dreaming of doing the work that you enjoy for the rest of times. No boss, no set hours, just you and your passion on a daily basis. Would you be also able to carry consequences that may surely arise along the path to success? What is something does not work out as intended? Would you just give up like that? Or would you stop, think, rethink, think again of an easier better way and push, push, push and push until you regain again your desired outcome?

Of course, I could go on and go with this but I am positive you are getting my point by now.

The truth be told, there is no free lunch. We came here with nothing, and the same with we are also going to leave. Hopefully we are going to learn some valuable lessons along the way and make this world a better place. Make and leave every person we come into a contact with just a little better, just a little wiser, just a little smarter, just a little happier, just a little satisfied, just a little fulfilled, just a little confident, just a little merrier, just a little safer in this world.

Are we going to be able to handle all the tasks at hand?

Are we going to be able to face all the consequences?

Are we able to ask for an advice if needs to be?

Are we there yet?

Or are we still having some ‘handling issues’?

You decide!!

(1000 words)

FREE FLOW WRITING

FREE FLOW WRITING

Free flow writing is a style of writing where you leave your fingers feel free to type away whatever they fancy, whatever first comes to your mind, whatever crosses path in your head, whatever interests you right now at the moment, whatever grabs your attention, whatever takes your fancy, whatever grasps their curiosity, your senses, your feelings, your right now moment.

Today I have learned and heard of 4 different types of love, of loving.

The first one of them all is the one that practically a baby has and holds for their parents. It is the most needed, the most immature, the most dependable kind of love that ever can exist here. The baby, of course, feels and thinks of himself/herself as a centre of the universe and everything around him/her  is rotating around his/her needs and everyone is always at ready to the baby at the baby’s every cry, every sound made. Everybody is literally at mercy and at service to any and every wish the baby’s mind ever even conceive. It may also be the most selfish kind of love there to be, of course, to baby’s knowledge, this is not the case. The baby’s has not learnt the concept of loving, the giving and the receiving parts that consist of that sort of rewarding love that human adults share amongst each other.

The second one would have to be described as the one where we love another person only in order to gain something from them for return. That is pretty snobby and selfish again, huh? We are in love with someone and love them because they may be in a possession of a huge amount of finances, a nice and shiny sport’s car, an enormous castle, a couple of horses, maids to cook, maids to clean the house, minders to look after children, gardeners, this person is also a valuable guest to prestige parties and snob’s meetings and get-togethers. What else is to gain and take away from this person? To be honest, that is not an act of love. That is a game of who wins and who loses, it is a fun play played by 2 puppets who may never understand the real meaning of true and pure love and loving. It could also be viewed as an eating from a plate by two incredibly hungry people. No one loses here, no one wins here, neither. Both starving for love and attention and touch and real feelings, pure love making and none of them is satisfied, none of them feels fulfilled, none of them is happy. It is sad yet very true and happening very, very, way too often.

The third way of looking at love and being in love, and feeling loved in return is the one that most of us dream of. We want it, we desire it, we need it, we cry for it, we sing about it, we write about it, we are hungry and starving for this very one, we cannot seem to have enough of it, ever. Yet, it is the one when you do not expect anything in return. You love this person just because. Just because you feel pure and loving appreciation for them, you feel desire to be with them in the most sweetest way possible, you want to hold them, and laugh with them, and kiss them, and fall asleep with them and do things with them, and smile at them, and smile with them, help them in any way possible, you feel grateful to be around this person and most importantly you feel a total gratitude for having even showed up this very person in your life, for having this person to be part of you, to have this person part of your daily life, to share moments with this person, to give and to give and to give them more and more and even more you can ever afford. You want to surprise them and then observe their reaction, you earn for them to be happy, to see them happy and smiling all the time, you put this person before yourself, you love this person deeply and truly and unconditionally.

The last, the forth love in our mini tutorial here, is the spiritual one. I am talking about Nelson Mandela, Mother Theresa, the Dalai Lama, … Those people see and view love as a way of being, as a way of breathing, as a way of living. To them, there is no other way. They do not believe in enemies, they love one another as their own blood, as their own family. There is, of course, no judgement. No one is no less or more than the next person. Everyone is perceived through the loving eyes and as a love itself. People are seen and viewed as souls, beings, where the soul is eternal, as everlasting one, forever and ever going. Humans are beings, not doings. Souls remain untouched, unharmed, not shattered and not bruised, unhurt. This is the divine love, love for everyone, for everything, for anything. 

What can we all do in order to be closer to that category? What can we do for others, and for ourselves? What can we give away? Who and what can we love more?

Who can help us? Where to look for an example? What can be done more? Who can we become more of, less of? Where to spread more love? Where to begin? What would be the most profound way, the most profound act, the most profound service that we could harness, that we could do, that we could learn to navigate, that we could learn to use, that we could use to operate and make the world and all in it a better place for everyone involved, anyone included?

So, what do you think where is the majority of people standing?

And most importantly, what are we going to do about this, here and now?

(1000 words)

What is your face telling about yourself?

What is your face telling about yourself?

Are you smiling?

Are you frowning?

Are you feeling happy?

Are you feeling sad?

Are you feeling disappointed?

Are you feeling dissatisfied?

Is your face showing unhappiness?

Are you feeling angry?

Are you feeling upset?

Are you feeling joyful?

Have you been crying?

Are you laughing now?

Are you feeling satisfaction?

Are you experiencing love?

Are you feeling in love?

Everything…

… from every moment, every memory, every chance encounter, every dialogue, every action, every decision, every monologue, every speech, every experience (good and bad), every meeting, every talk, every chat, every song sung, every decision, every smell, every taste, every book,  every sight, every touch, every negative feeling, every single positive feeling, every joy, every dream, every sorrow, every happiness, every sadness, every cry, every tear ever fallen down your face, every cheer, every smile, every story ever told, every laugh, every drop of sweat, to every kiss, every note ever taken and written, everything has been showing their true colours on your face.

Compare the face of an innocent, young child to the person of maturity, learning, stories, gained knowledge and experience.

Every line on our face tells of a story. The thoughts we hold in our minds on a constant day to day basis have been written and carved onto our face.

There are the lines on our forehead, the lines around our eyes, and also the lines around our mouths. They all tell a story. They all tell the different story.  There is a meaning behind every single one of them. 

What are your lines telling you? What is your face showing off? Are those mostly the lines of cheer, laugh and happiness? Or are they representing more or less signs of sadness, disappointment, crying, too much thinking happening too way often, love, passion, courage, strength, or weakness, illness, pain, emptiness, loneliness, worry, etc.

As I have mentioned earlier in one of my previous blogs' entries, we are creatures of a habit. That which we do constantly, day to day, without any thinking on our part, without our realization, without putting any thoughts into an action whatsoever, that all also applies to our innermost deeper way of thinking. 

What is running inside our heads, what is leading our minds, what kind of thoughts have we been playing with mostly lately? Are we visualizing ourselves that all is happening only for our good, are we seeing creating and becoming and coming true and real all our dreams and visions and aspirations? Are we seeing the best in people, the best in every situation, every circumstances, are we looking for the clues that shape our lives, are we learning our lessons along the way, are we being an inspiration to others. Have we ourselves been improving daily and becoming the better versions of ourselves from the one we were the day before? Are we constantly learning? Are we exercising the willpower of ours?

Are we challenging ourselves in all and every aspects of our life? What are we becoming along the way? What does matter most to you? Where you put most of your attention?  What does interest you the most? What does interest you the least? Who matters the most to you? Do they know that? Have you told them recently?

Are you seeing yourself as a successful and an accomplished person, a winner, a success, a leader, a teacher, a mentor, a coach, an example?

Or are you mostly seeing yourself as someone who does not seem to win as often as wished, someone who does not finish a task, who procrastinate all the time, someone who never seem to pull off any task to completion, someone who is constantly looking for mistakes and faults in yourself and others, someone who considers the world and everything in it just the waste of time, waste of people, waste of space, someone who thinks of his existence as of a mistake, someone who sees this and every space as a hostile place to be, to live, to breathe in.

Have you been competing with the world around you, with the people in it?

Have you been in a competition with others or are you rather the one who prefers collaborating with everyone, anyone, in the world?

Or are you more of a competitor to yourself and your abilities?

Are you being powerful sort of machine-person, or are you sabotaging yourself in any way possible? Why, in the world, would you do such a thing to yourself, and others, for that matter?

Are you concentrating on things that you want, that you can do, that you can achieve, that you can see becoming reality OR are you constantly in a downward spiral, focusing on the very things that did not work out for you, that you cannot accomplish, that are not working, that stink, that are not supposed to become real, at all?

We have an incredible amount of thoughts running through our mind every single day.

However, we human are capable of holding only one thought at a time. So why not make it a positive one, why not make it a good one, why not make it the one that changes everything? Because really, why not, if we are able of this and that and even more if we only believed in ourselves just a little bit more!

We cannot change a person. We only can change ourselves. And as soon as we change ourselves we will see differently the world around us, the people around us and then and only then the people’s behaviours will also appear differently to us.

Learn to accept the things we cannot change.

Live with those things that we can influence, we can change and have an impact on. 

We cannot change the past.

We cannot change the weather.

We cannot change other people’s reactions to us.

The timing may never seem perfect. Now is the perfect time.

So I say Go For It!!!

(1004 words)

Lucie’s 365(6) wisdom treats/pearls/bites/tidbits!! :-) (PART Six)

Lucie’s 365(6) wisdom treats/pearls/bites/tidbits!! :-) (PART Six)

11/4/2013: Get a pen and a journal!! :)

12/4/2013: Attent./Affection/Appreciat.

13/4/2013: How can I love You more??

14/4/2013: Be upfront, real, tell the truth.

15/4/2013: Change comes from inside out

16/4/2013: Speak Encouraging Words! :-)

17/4/2013: Celebrate Your Progress !!

18/4/2013: You don't ask, you don't get!!

19/4/2013: Live with Enthusiasm !!! (-:

20/4/2013: Leave Everyone w/ Increase

21/4/2013: Hope. Hope. Hope. Hope!

22/4/2013: Faith & Love. Faith & Love!!

23/4/2013: Each ONE -> Teach ONE !! :-)

24/4/2013: Teachers learn twice !!!!!

25/4/2013: Get out of your comfort zone

26/4/2013: Set People FREE !!! :-) (-:

27/4/2013: The essential thing is to learn.

28/4/2013: Timing is EVERYTHING !!!

29/4/2013: Less is More. More is LESS!!

30/4/2013: Love is all we are all made of

1/5/2013: Everything begins from within

2/5/2013: YOU start the REVOLUTION

3/5/2013: This is a FRIENDLY Universe!

4/5/2013: Help Someone Else !! :-)

5/5/2013: Gratitude is the antidote to fear

6/5/2013: Look 4 the treasure in the trials

7/5/2013: Collaborate & Synergize!! :-)

8/5/2013: Your set back => your set up!

9/5/2013: Be humble, be meek, LEARN!

10/5/2013: Appreciat./Approval/Attent.

THE LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL….

THE LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL….

HEALTH

Ø What do you do when your most precious possession you own has been threatened, shattered, shaken, and not well taken care of recently? Are you panicking? How is your relation with mind-body connection here? What if you feel so scared and not knowing what to do? What do you do? What do you say? Would you put a thinking hat on and go deep down inside? Who do you ask for help?

FAMILY

Ø Are your family ties working properly? Have you told recently the very close, near and dear ones family members about how you feel about and towards them? What and how is your relationship with you mother, and siblings?

RELATIONSHIP

Ø What if you are longing for a long term, loving, committed relationship with the one and only? We cannot give something to someone that which we do not have ourselves. If we went and did it anyway, all we would ever attract would be the very same that lies also within ourselves. At the end of the journey, you may also realize, it was all just about the relationships you have had with others!!! So, what are you going to do about this?

FRIENDSHIP(s)

Ø What if you have no real friends living close by? What if everyone you ever called your friend / mate has moved out of the country, or has moved on with their lives? What then will you do? How to go about finding and meeting fun, interesting, like-minded people as yourself? Where to go and get creative ideas? Where to start and build a like-minded group and community? Who to share your challenges, feelings, emotions, good times, not-so-good times, joys, laughter, stories, food, drink, books, poems, songs, music, exercise, yoga mats, etc. with? Where is this person and most importantly who is this person? Is he/she your mate or is it a separate entity? Is he/she ever there for you and you for him/her?

J.O.B.

Ø Well, that is the easy one: are you happy or unhappy here?!? Have you been rewarded accordingly? Have you been appreciated? Have you been treated well? How is your relationship with your boss and co-workers if you have any? How is it money-wise? Are you being satisfied, or dissatisfied would be more like it?

PASSION WORK

Ø Now, this one is a biggie: are you doing it or not doing it?!? Are you in a process of enquiring it, working towards it? Do you actually know what that IT is? How to go about finding your true calling? What questions are there that you could possibly ask yourself? Google. Go online. Go figure it all out!

YOU, & YOURSELF AGAIN

This is where all the fun begins and also ends.

Ø What is going on with and in your mind right now at this very moment? What are you focusing on? What are you concentration on? What are your priorities? What are the primary emotions you are experiencing on a daily basis? What have you been attracting into your life on a day to day basis (Hint: Look around you. That is it!). Are you feeling happy or unhappy for most of the time? What are you going to do about it? It is only your life. No one else’s. And it is not rehearsal. You are the captain of your own sail-boat, you are in a driver’s seat!

And most importantly, what do you do, when you yourself feel that this is not you! You have been meant for more. You have been meant to do bigger, to go bigger, to enjoy bigger, to love more and to be loved in return.  This is not the life you are meant to live! You want more, you desire more, you deserve more, after all!!

The truth is no one can ever make you inferior without your consent. You are the only person who says things to yourself that you also are becoming to believe in. What are those ‘things’? The picture / the vision you form in your mind is your very own. Your perception of reality has nothing to do with others, with their own perception of yourself. Yes, it could have been influenced by it, but, never the less, the end result is always and only of yours making.

I would suggest that we start by realizing what we already have in our lives without our real knowing and appreciating. By being grateful and by being open to possibilities and opportunities that are surely coming our way daily, we acknowledge the rail of lightning that is shining through our way and only to our advantages, only to our best interests in mind, for our very own good.

There is also a fact that I firmly and strongly believe in and that has had a profound impact in my life. This reality basically tells about the situation that all those things, all those dreams, all those wildest aspirations that we so tightly hold on to, are already in our lives. The truth be told we may be in the position, in the state, that we are not yet really ready to fully comprehend them, to fully grasp their fruitful daze, to entirely understand them, to wholly appreciate all those gifts in order to be happy that we are not seeing them as such yet, we are not able to experience their joy, their sweet and loving taste, their speciality, their uniqueness.

We must also realize that nothing appears in the physical form first unless until it was first created in our minds, until we first see it with our eyes of imagination. No dream was ever created first until it was first done in the creator’s mind in the first place. The mind-body connection is what I am referring to here!

Because…

… at the end of the day, IT IS ALL AN ACT OF LOVE.

And all is well.

And this *period* makes it to 1000 words.

J

(1007 words)

Everyone is fighting the same battle as you!!!

Everyone is fighting the same battle as you!!!

The statement above pretty much summarizes the article I am going to write about. It also pretty much says it all in one sentence about the struggle we are all going through, we are all fighting, we are all in a battle with, what that life thing is all about. How come that we can compare ourselves to others, knowing we have it all put together, or not put together for that matter, how come that we may say that we all know what the others have been going, doing, saying, thinking and no one could possibly understand the situation we are finding ourselves in, at all?

We all want to be loved.

We all want to be and to feel needed.

We all crave for an attention.

We all starve for an appreciation.

We all need an understanding.

We all need to feel understood.

We all desired to be held, hugged, and kissed.

We all need each other.

We all need each other’s help.

We all need to be heard.

We all need to be listened to.

We all need to have someone to laugh with.

We all want to be close to someone, intimately.

We all need someone to smile at.

We need someone to be close to.

• Take a responsibility for your own life.
• Take a responsibility for your own actions.
• Take a responsibility for your own words.

A few nice words can help a person a lot more than you think!

What story have you been telling yourself? What inner voice of yours have you been listening to, have you been paying attention to? What sort of voice has been influencing you? What kind of voice has been leading your life? What type of voice has been in charge of you, of your life, and interacting with your personality? Have the words you have been talking to and listening yourself back been mostly positive OR negative ones? Is that helping you or rather slowing you down? Is that pushing you forward or rather dragging you down, pulling you backwards? Have you been judging others or yourself recently? Every single one of us is trying our very best to succeed, to be successful, to be in a loving relationship, to have a dream job, passionate and creative friends, loving family, a beautiful house, healthy and happy and smart children. All of us want that, and more. We are doing and working with the resources that are at hand for us at the time we are handling them for that particular situation. The consequences there are our own responsibilities to deal with.

Oh, and, by the way, have you been keeping a Gratitude Journal?  A notepad where you can write down and reflect on your thoughts that have happened and occurred during your day? Have you noted your 5 things in a day that you are grateful and thankful for? What are they? Would you be able to recall at least 5 situations where you felt the universe has your back, this is all a friendly place that works for you, and not against you?

What you see in others, the same lies within you also, be it a positive trait or a negative one.

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