VISION

VISION

Without a vision, people perish.

What are you here to do?

What are you passionate about?

What is your reason to be here?

What is your calling?

What is your purpose?

Why are you here?

What are you most proud of?

What do you enjoy doing?

What are you good at?

When are you in your ‘zone’?

What are you doing when the times just flies by without you even noticing it?

What would you do if you knew you could not fail?

What would you do if the money was no object?

We are people who need a reason to wake up to every single morning. If we do not move forward / toward a goal, or in the other case when we do not move at all (we stagnate) or we go backwards.

What goals have you set up for yourself?

What is your vision?

What keeps you up at night so intensely that you cannot wait for the morning to come so then you can go and make it happen?

Are you passionate enough?

Are you ambitions about you or more about and for others?

If you have children, are they included or excluded in the process?

Is your vision going beyond yourself and aiming more towards the HIGHEST GOOD?

Take time and really, really think about your goals, your vision, your purpose, your reason of being here. It is incredibly important.

There are no accidents, there are no coincidences. Everything happens for a reason. There are universal laws that work for and with every single each of us.

Why are you here? Do let us know. Thank you!

Mentor / Role Model / Teacher / Coach

Mentor / Role Model / Teacher / Coach

·        Who is your mentor? Do you have one??

·        Who is your role model? Do you have one??

·        Who is your teacher? Do you have one??

·        Who is your coach? Do you have one??

For today’s blog’s topic I have decided to choose to write something about that means a lot and I would love to stress enough for you its importance.

To have someone in your life that you can count on.

To have someone in your life that you can trust.

To have someone in your life that you can share your deepest dreams and desires with.

To have someone in your life that is always there for you.

To have someone in your life that would always offer a shoulder to cry on if need be.

To have someone in your life that can teach you valuable lessons.

To have someone in your life that you can use as a coach, mentor, role model, teacher.

To have someone in your life that can lift you up without pulling you down.

To have someone in your life that can see your weaknesses and still loves you, no matter what!

To have someone in your life that you can ring up in the middle of the night and they would be there for you!

To have someone in your life that is so much like you but also possess the opposites of you!

To have someone in your life that can push you in the right direction.

To have someone in your life that can point your mistakes in private and not in front of your friends at the party!

To have someone in your life that loves you, cares about you, adores you, cherishes you, longs for you, looks forward to spending a time with you.

To have someone in your life that remembers important dates in your life.

To have someone in your life that tries to connect with you and contact you again and again if the first one has not gone through.

To have someone in your life that puts himself/herself down just so you can be saved.

To have someone in your life that watches over you!

To have someone in your life that shares in your happiness!

To have someone in your life that shows you off to his/her friends and says: ‘That is her/him!’. :-)

To have someone in your life that shows you the way.

To have someone in your life that guides you on your path.

To have someone in your life who is there for you and with you on your Life's journey!

To have someone in your life that holds your hand.

To have someone in your life that means well with and for you.

To have someone in your life that appreciates you.

To have someone in your life that has been there and done that!!

To have someone in your life that protects you.

To have someone in your life that smiles with you.

To have someone in your life that inspires you.

To have someone in your life that serves as an angel?!

To have someone in your life that rejoices with you and in your luck.

To have someone in your life that you truly, TRULY, matter to.

To have someone in your life that dresses up with you!! J

Each of us needs all of us!! All of us needs each of us!!

We need to learn to inspire and be inspired in return.

Surround yourself with people who are above you in every way.

Love the knowing that the mentors are all around us, behind every corner, behind every closed door. Keep looking for them and you will surely find some!

Remember: When the student is ready, the teacher will appear!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

enJoy finding yours ….

Thank you! (-:

Our Feelings Are Here For A Reason. Period.

Our Feelings Are Here For A  Reason. Period.

Let us not be afraid of feeling our feelings / emotions.

Let us learn from them.

Let us see where they are coming from.

Let us discover why we feel we feel.

Let us understand that our feelings are here to teach us something valuable.

Let us know what that is!

Let us not feel shamed about ‘feeling’ and actually ‘experiencing’ our emotions.

Let us be grateful for having them – they are here to help us, move us forward, develop us!

Ø We are human beings, and not human doings. And we are also human feelings.

Ø We are ruled by emotions. Our emotions.

Ø Your thinking has brought you to where you currently are now!

Ø We need people in our lives!

Ø Worrying does not help anyone!!

Never give up!!

ACTIONS, ACTIONS, ACTIONS!!!

ACTIONS, ACTIONS, ACTIONS!!!

Reaching up to the close of the year and coming nearer and nearer to what is called a beginning of the New Year I thought it would be a good idea to reflect on and in the process of doing so, advance on our journey through our story named Life.

I am going to be very cautious as to choosing the subjects of topics for the following blog posts in the next couple of days!

I suppose we have all heard and are aware of that there is no free lunch, winning the lottery just does not happen unless we buy a lottery ticket; no one will go out with us if we do not take the courage to ask them, you put your head on the pillow at the end of the day the way you made up your bed in the morning; you are not going to eat (the food/the meal is not going to present itself in front of you) if you do not do any cooking/shopping, etc. etc….

Time usage is your greatest commodity. It is your most precious resource. Everyone has got 24 hours each day to deal with.

Nothing changes unless there is a push, a press, an action, a determination, a fire, an aim forced high enough for us to get up again and again and again in the morning and the following morning, and the morning after and go after we are after!!

Time management is Life management.

Start from where you are, with what you have got, with who you are.

It does not matter where you are coming from. All it matters is where you are going!

v What is the next step?

v What actions can I take today to make my life easier?

v What can I do today to make myself a better person?

v What is the very best investment/use of your time?

v What else is there to do?

v What really matters?

v What is the most important to you?

v What would have the greatest impact on your life?

Thank you for reading; please leave a comment; and blog to you again tomorrow! J

Marshmallow Experiment

Marshmallow Experiment

Self-discipline…. Repetition

• Habit of saving

• Habit of healthy eating

• Habit of exercising

The Stanford marshmallow experiment was a study on deferred gratification conducted in 1972 by psychologist Walter Mischel of Stanford University. A marshmallow was offered to each child. If the child could resist eating the marshmallow, he was promised two instead of one. The scientists analyzed how long each child resisted the temptation of eating the marshmallow, and whether or not doing so was correlated with future success.The original study at Stanford has been cited some 400 times.

The purpose of the original study was to understand when the control of deferred gratification, the ability to wait to obtain something that one wants, develops in children. The original experiment took place at the Bing Nursery School located at Stanford University, using children age four to six as subjects. The children were led into a room, empty of distractions, where a treat of their choice (Oreo cookie, marshmallow, or pretzel stick) was placed on a table, by a chair.  The children could eat the marshmallow, the researchers said, but if they waited for fifteen minutes without giving in to the temptation, they would be rewarded with a second marshmallow. Mischel observed as some would "cover their eyes with their hands or turn around so that they can't see the tray, others start kicking the desk, or tug on their pigtails, or stroke the marshmallow as if it were a tiny stuffed animal", while others would simply eat the marshmallow as soon as the researchers left.

In over 600 children who took part in the experiment, a minority ate the marshmallow immediately. Of those who attempted to delay, one third deferred gratification long enough to get the second marshmallow. Age was a major determinant of deferred gratification.

On the table in the experimental room there were 5 pretzels and an opaque cake tin. Under cake tin were 5 pretzels and two animal cookies. There were 2 chairs in front of table, on one chair was an empty cardboard box. On the floor near the chair with the cardboard box on it, were 4 battery operated toys. The experimenter pointed out the 4 toys, before the child could play with the toys, the experimenter asked the child to sit in the chair, he then demonstrated each toy briefly and in a friendly manner, saying that they would play with the toys later on – the experimenter placed each toy in the cardboard box & out of sight of the child. The experimenter explained to the child that the experimenter sometimes has to go out of the room but if the child eats a pretzel the experimenter will come back into the room. These instructions were repeated until the child seemed to understand them completely. The experimenter left the room and waited for the child to eat a pretzel – they did this 4 times. Next the experimenter opened the cake tin to reveal 2 sets of reward objects to the child 5 pretzels and 2 animal crackers. The experimenter asked which of the two the child liked better (preferred reward), and after the child chose, the experimenter explained that the child could either continue waiting for the more preferred reward until the experimenter returned or the child could stop waiting by bringing the experimenter back. If the child stopped waiting, then the child would receive the less favored reward and forgo the more preferred one. Depending on the condition and the child’s choice of preferred reward, the experimenter picked up the cake tin and along with it either nothing, one of the rewards, or both. The experimenter returned either as soon as the child signaled him to do so or after 15 minutes.

The first follow-up study, in 1988, showed that "preschool children who delayed gratification longer in the self-imposed delay paradigm, were described more than 10 years later by their parents as adolescents who were significantly more competent".

A 2011 study of the same participants indicates that the characteristic remains with the person for life. Additionally, brain imaging showed key differences between the two groups in two areas: the prefrontal cortex (more active in high delayers) and the ventral striatum (an area linked to addictions).

It has changed the way educators and psychologists think about success: The lesson is that it’s not just intelligence that matters, but self-control and patience and being able to tame one’s impulses—from the desire to eat the marshmallow to the desire to blow off an exam or have an affair.

Watch: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yo4WF3cSd9Q

MY TRIED & TESTED / EXPERIMENT / TASK / AIM / FOCUS / CHALLENGE

MY TRIED & TESTED / EXPERIMENT / TASK / AIM / FOCUS / CHALLENGE

This today’s blog is going to be short & sweet as it is going also to be a work in progress! 

So I have decided to be the BEST POSSIBLE VERSION OF MYSELF on a daily basis! Yep! You have read it correctly!

·         I am going to!

·         I have set my mind to!

·         Something inside me is moving!

o   Mentor.

o   Role Model.

o   Teacher.

§  The power is within me!

§  The power is within you!

§  The power is within us!

This transformation of mine is teaching me one of the greatest lessons if by no means THE one and only, THE biggest one of all.

This process of changing me…

… to be continued. J

Will keep you posted!!

De-Cluttering (& You!)

De-Cluttering (& You!)

How do you feel when passing by a cluttered space, a place?

Ø  What does your working (office) environment look like?

Ø  What does your home (living) space look like? Is it friendly? Is it welcoming? Is it warm, clean, tidy, cosy? Is it light or dark? Is it fresh?  Does it feel comfortable to be there?

Ø  Do you have a sacred room, a corner to escape to?

Ø  Do you think it matters, affects the way you feel, react, act, view yourself?

De cluttering your mind

De cluttering your living / physical environment

De cluttering your social environment

Imagine walking in your office or home and the first thing that hits your eyes is a mess, and I mean, A BIG, HUGE MESS. Or some paperwork that you have been meaning to attend to, or letters, mail, correspondence that you have wanted to deal with for a very long time and read and go through, or gifts that you still need to unwrap or wrap, homework that need to be checked on or done or finished, or shopping list that need to be taken care of, or dishes that need to be washed, trashed that need to be emptied, shopping that need to be put away, ironing that NEEDS to be done, cleaning, hoovering, any housework, and plates still on the lying on the table and not to mention a dishwasher that ‘shouts’ to be unloaded, washing machine full (overflown) with clothes, dusting, shoes that need to be polished, books that must be read, mirror(s) that want to be shined, glasses that must be hand washed, a meal that MUST be finished, ect., etc.

Shall I continue more and carry on here?

THAT then has an implication on everything you do, say, feel. On a very subconscious mind level, that is.

It is a very clearing and liberating feeling once it is all done and accomplished. All else then will fall in its place. Beginning is half done. You feel as if breathing in a different air! It will surely and definitely make your day.

Do not take my word for it! Try it for yourself. Test it. Challenge it! And then let us know! J

Cluttered OUTSIDE means cluttered INSIDE !!

You have a choice and I say:

No but no, thanks!

Would you be interested in implementing some de-cluttering ideas?

Have you done it before?

What are your results?

Did something work / did not work for you? If so, what are those?

Please, share some of yours here with others. Much appreciated! Thank you!!

Do not WORRY, Be HAPPY! :-)

Do not WORRY, Be HAPPY! J

Or else in other words ‘I have seen the end and it is all going to turn out just alright!’ ;-)

Are you happy?

Or Are you worried?

Do you worry often?

Do exactly that very thing which you do want to do THE VERY LEAST! There, exactly there (!) is the greatest learning experience / a lesson.

We so often worry too much about things when eventually most of them rarely ever even happen!

So what is the point in worrying then??

ü  If you don’t feel like dancing – DANCE!

ü  If you don’t feel like cooking – COOK!

ü  If you feel inferior – PUT ON AND WEAR YOUR BEST CLOTHES!

ü  If you feel like staying in – GO OUT AND ENJOY YOURSELF!

ü  If you feel like watching TV – DO EXERCISES INSTEAD!

ü  If you feel like indulging in food – DRINK WATER AND BREATHE CORRECTLY!

ü  If you feel like feeling sorry for yourself – CELEBRATE YOUR ACHIEVEMENTS!!!!!!!

ü  If you feel like being alone – GET A FRIEND TO LISTEN TO YOU!

ü  If you feel like being sad, angry & frowning – SMILE, SMILE & SMILE EVEN MORE! J

ü  If you feel like going on shopping spree and spending money – OPEN A SAVINGS ACCOUNT!!

ü  If you feel like crying – LAUGH OUT LOUD! LOL

ü  If you feel like not having enough – VOLUNTEER AND HELP SOMEONE ELSE IN NEED!

ü  If you feel like not being loved and adored and cherished – GIVE SOMEONE A HUG!!

ü  If you feel like being sick and ill and tired/weary– CRY / SCREAM / SHOUT OUT HEALTH AND WELLNESS AND HAPPINESS!

ü  If you feel discouraged – ENCOURAGE YOUR MATE / FRIEND / WHOEVER!!

ü  If you feel like talking too much – TRY LISTENING TWICE AS MUCH!

ü  If you feel self-pity for yourself – PRAISE THE ONE YOU WORSHIP!

Focus 20% on your problems and the 80% on the solutions, on solving them!

And remember: there is always a way. Always. You have been given a ‘problem’ AND you have also been given enough resources with which to use to go and help find a solution and solve it!

(-:   :-)

The Rocking Chair Test

The Rocking Chair Test

Are you up for a challenge?

Are you ready to take a test? (no examination meant, to marks given!)

You are going to be your very own a Teacher AND a Student??

What does the Rocking Chair Test tell us?

Many of us are afraid to follow our passions, to pursue what we want most because it means taking risks and even facing failure. But to pursue your passion with all your heart and soul is success in itself. The greatest failure is to have never really tried.

People achieve success when they take a leap of faith and face what they don’t know and move forward with fierce determination.

The true fact states as it is that we most regret things that we did not do rather than those that we did!

The Rocking Chair Test simply says and talks about how we are going to feel when the time comes when we turn to be 80 or 90 or 100 years old (young!) and when we are going to reflect back on our life journey.

Are we going to regret something that we did not do?

Are we going to regret something that we did not say to someone?

Are we going to regret anything when we did not speak up?

Are we going to regret that we did not talk and think the right things?

Are we going to regret anything at all?

Are we going to be lonely?

Are we going to be sad?

Are we going to be sick and tired?

Are we going to have no friends at all?

Are we going to feel weak?

Or

Are we going to be proud of ourselves?

Are we going to pat ourselves on our back and say: ’Well done!’?

Are we going to feel satisfaction?

Are we going to be happy?

Are we going to be healthy (thanks to our healthy eating habits and exercise regime)?

Are we going to live with someone and with the loved ones close to us?

Are we going to be cheerful?

Are we going to be surrendered by friends?

Are we going to be strong?

It is your and only your life! You decide on the best approach to attack it! Your choice.

The time to plan your future in 10- year time, or more or less, is NOW!!

Let only good things come your way – you have the power in your very hands!

What are you going to do NOW??